Hating is easier that peace making

Recent commemorations of the 1914 war and the tipping place of devastating violence that ensued is a reminder that we lean to pride and defensiveness and revenge more immediately than trust and peace-making.Nothing has changed in 100 years.Unless we discover and practice spiritual responses of mindfulness,self reflection,self control and conscious presence to others,we shall always take this first instinctive option.


Peter Fox

An Enrichment Programme to Strengthen and Realize the Full Potential of Your Relationship : 14-17 August 2014


@ R 8 640 per couple

Peter Fox, a Pastoral therapist, invites you to the serenity of the Winelands to strengthen your relationship. Using FAMSA material Peter assists you in working through your relationship conflict and solidifying your love.

The programme is ideal for couples in a committed relationship, intending to marry or are already married.


  • Three nights’ accommodation
  • Fresh country breakfasts
  • Light lunches
  • Two-course gourmet dinners.
  • The exclusive use of Angala for the participating couples

See hotel website for details 

Interfaith relationships and community

Last night Delia Scott and her team welcomed many different people to a dinner at Kolbe House.Many of us from different faith communities had met each other at lectures and seminars and formal functions.It was a meal in honour of Fr John Oliver who worked tirelessly across barriers to unite and serve all people.He died suddenly two months ago.Others were new and interesting faces and each with a story of reaching past ourselves for the good of the community.Some stimulating input from Imam Rashid Omar,Fr Chris Clohessy,and Rabbi Greg Alexander.John Scott was our amiable and quick witted master of ceremonies for the evening.This morning we woke to news of the Kenyan massacre in a shopping centre and the news of 70 worshippers killed at a church built in the design of a mosque in Pakistan.The design of the church was purposefully chosen to honour the unity amongst all peoples in that land.What bonds of respect in love and wisdom are required across the barriers that divide and fuel hostility and hatred that decimate living communities and make a mockery of peace initiatives.Let us hold Cape Town accountable to being a city of compassion and tolerant respect for all peoples.Peace has to be more than words in a song we sing in the face of such evil intention and chaos.

Rilke s reflection of interior ripening

> let each impression and each embryo of a feeling come to completion,
> entirely in itself, in the dark, in the unsayable, the unconscious,
> beyond the reach of one’s own understanding, and with deep humility
> and patience to wait for the hour when a new clarity is born: this
> alone is what it means to live as an artist: in understanding as in
> In this there is no measuring with time, a year doesn’t matter,
> and ten years are nothing. Being an artist means: not numbering and
> counting, but ripening like a tree, which doesn’t force its sap, and
> stands confidently in the storms of spring, not afraid that afterward
> summer may not come. It does come. But it comes only to those who are
> patient, who are there as if eternity lay before them, so
> unconcernedly silent and vast. I learn it every day of my life, learn
> it with pain I am grateful for: patience is everything!

The Halo and the Noose

BookCoverHaloThis is the foreword I wrote to this excellent book The Halo and the Noose by Graham Williams and Dorian Haarhoff.

The authors fuse their creatively different but complimenting skills from their experiences in the corporate business and academic worlds to create this unique signature dish.
It has all the taste, life-sustaining nutrients and stylish presentation that will leave you smiling long after you finish it.
The stories told in this presentation are like the aroma of the dish-awakening senses to our humanness and our soul’s quest to have another reference – a spiritual identity, beyond our capacity to define ourselves merely by what we earn. This book will remain in your memory and you will return to it as an appetising staple on your menu

As it is in Heaven?

A Brazilian film called Astral City was screened at Labia on Sunday 26th May 2013.I was asked to introduce the film and answer questions afterwards. Its a parable or narrative that invites serious reflection on the lives we choose to lead. The setting is in the Forties of the last century during the horrors of the war. It is about a hard working but unsmiling doctor who dies and in Heaven is re educated and evolves spiritually. He then has a re-entry to earth where he constellates a healing impact in his family. I imagined that those possibilities were all to be explored and resolved this side of Heaven? It also clearly shows how the lifestyles we lead can initiate a self suicide that sees us dying as a result of our out of harmony lives! However it makes for interesting viewing. Maybe life and death are one not two in the virtual architecture of the soul. It will always be problematic and controversial -the workings and accessing of the paranormal- and yet increasingly there is scientific research into near death experiences and other psychic experiences that call into question the easy and quick certainties we assert about reality. The movie seems to suggest that it is never to late to start again or to evolve spiritually in this realm or the next. The developing of a sixth sense is within the grasp of all of us but maybe our very material connections blunt this possibility for us and we lose the opportunity?

Interfaith Dialogue and Community

In speaking to the AGM of the Interfaith Initiative in Cape Town last night at the Crypt in St Marks Church in District Six,I pondered on the contribution that could be made in the creation of an interfaith centre–where city and community issues could be tackled together and the peace of the city could be established–Christian, Jew, Muslim, Ba’hai, Buddhist and Hindu and Agnostic –Then, instead of giving the freedom of the city to dignatories like President Obama we would receive it ourselves, as citizens, because of the way we worked in collaboration for Peace and Healing. There already are architectural plans drawn for such a centre–What is needed is 35 Million Rand!!