Hating is easier that peace making

Recent commemorations of the 1914 war and the tipping place of devastating violence that ensued is a reminder that we lean to pride and defensiveness and revenge more immediately than trust and peace-making.Nothing has changed in 100 years.Unless we discover and practice spiritual responses of mindfulness,self reflection,self control and conscious presence to others,we shall always take this first instinctive option.


Peter Fox

An Enrichment Programme to Strengthen and Realize the Full Potential of Your Relationship : 14-17 August 2014


@ R 8 640 per couple

Peter Fox, a Pastoral therapist, invites you to the serenity of the Winelands to strengthen your relationship. Using FAMSA material Peter assists you in working through your relationship conflict and solidifying your love.

The programme is ideal for couples in a committed relationship, intending to marry or are already married.


  • Three nights’ accommodation
  • Fresh country breakfasts
  • Light lunches
  • Two-course gourmet dinners.
  • The exclusive use of Angala for the participating couples

See hotel website for details 

Interfaith relationships and community

Last night Delia Scott and her team welcomed many different people to a dinner at Kolbe House.Many of us from different faith communities had met each other at lectures and seminars and formal functions.It was a meal in honour of Fr John Oliver who worked tirelessly across barriers to unite and serve all people.He died suddenly two months ago.Others were new and interesting faces and each with a story of reaching past ourselves for the good of the community.Some stimulating input from Imam Rashid Omar,Fr Chris Clohessy,and Rabbi Greg Alexander.John Scott was our amiable and quick witted master of ceremonies for the evening.This morning we woke to news of the Kenyan massacre in a shopping centre and the news of 70 worshippers killed at a church built in the design of a mosque in Pakistan.The design of the church was purposefully chosen to honour the unity amongst all peoples in that land.What bonds of respect in love and wisdom are required across the barriers that divide and fuel hostility and hatred that decimate living communities and make a mockery of peace initiatives.Let us hold Cape Town accountable to being a city of compassion and tolerant respect for all peoples.Peace has to be more than words in a song we sing in the face of such evil intention and chaos.

Rilke s reflection of interior ripening

> let each impression and each embryo of a feeling come to completion,
> entirely in itself, in the dark, in the unsayable, the unconscious,
> beyond the reach of one’s own understanding, and with deep humility
> and patience to wait for the hour when a new clarity is born: this
> alone is what it means to live as an artist: in understanding as in
> In this there is no measuring with time, a year doesn’t matter,
> and ten years are nothing. Being an artist means: not numbering and
> counting, but ripening like a tree, which doesn’t force its sap, and
> stands confidently in the storms of spring, not afraid that afterward
> summer may not come. It does come. But it comes only to those who are
> patient, who are there as if eternity lay before them, so
> unconcernedly silent and vast. I learn it every day of my life, learn
> it with pain I am grateful for: patience is everything!

The Halo and the Noose

BookCoverHaloThis is the foreword I wrote to this excellent book The Halo and the Noose by Graham Williams and Dorian Haarhoff.

The authors fuse their creatively different but complimenting skills from their experiences in the corporate business and academic worlds to create this unique signature dish.
It has all the taste, life-sustaining nutrients and stylish presentation that will leave you smiling long after you finish it.
The stories told in this presentation are like the aroma of the dish-awakening senses to our humanness and our soul’s quest to have another reference – a spiritual identity, beyond our capacity to define ourselves merely by what we earn. This book will remain in your memory and you will return to it as an appetising staple on your menu