What if behind the elaborate defenses and masks we wear there is someone we know within us that wants to live and grow and find a voice and we banish the possibility? Do we then become shadows of our real selves? Does something in our life force die? Living lives scripted into the stories that others write for us and that we then observe from a safe distance makes us phantoms rather than real people?In facing illness and change and loss what is important and crucial is that we see what is essential and let go of the rest. Our minds need not wander down too many paths–Time is too short –The quest for simplicity and focus is the hardest thing of all.
Marriage is that fine art of celebrating similarities and holding gently polarities and differences and somehow remaining interested and open to each others lives and desires.
The real challenge is to keep the interest and curiousity alive
When dealing with serious illness its as if one is living simultaneously in two worlds.Sanity is established by the chatter and yearnings of both conversations finding balance and equilibrium as the competing voices from both worlds do not drown each other out.
These two concepts and realities have a symbiotic relationship but they can out maneovre each other.Someone said Religion is for those who want to avoid Hell and Spirituality is for those who have been there! Spiritual identity is forged as we listen to what arises within us past the anger and bitterness and hate.As we catch the wisps of hope and love and faith that engage the higher more evolved mind that has processed disappointment,betrayal,disillusionment and still sees the beauty and wonder of Life, we breathe different air.
To be spiritual is to seek authenticity and to be able to hold polarity and sometimes contradiction.To be religious is to belong to a specific faith community and to experience a relationship to sacred text and community that re inforces that.That happens with some Religious communities in a way that excludes and diminishes others or includes and celebrates them.